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بخش ۳۷ - در نصیحت مجردان که به صحبت زنان آب خود نریزند و وصیت کدخدایان که از فرمانبرداری زنان بپرهیزید / Section 37 - In Advising the Celibate That They Should Not Spill Their Water in the Company of Women, and Enjoining Householders to Avoid Obedience to Women

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بیا ای چو عیسی تجرد نهاد
تو را زین تجرد تمرد مباد

چو عیسی عنان از تجرد نتافت
سوی آسمان از تجرد شتافت

تعلق به زن دست و پا بستن است
تجرد ازان بند وارستن است

کسی را که بند است بر دست و پای
چه امکان که آسان بجنبد ز جای

ز شهوت اگر مرد دیوانه نیست
ز رسم و ره عقل بیگانه نیست

چرا بند بر دست و پا می نهد
دل و دین به باد هوا می دهد

چه خوش گفت دانا حکیمی که گفت
که دارم ز خواهنده زن شگفت

پدر زن که دختر به چشمش نکوست
دل و دیده اش هر دو روشن به اوست

بود بر دلش دختر آنسان گران
که صد گونه اندوه بر دیگران

کند سیم و زر وام بهر جهیز
که سویش شود رغبت شوی تیز

دو صد حیله در خاطر آویزدش
که تا از دل آن بار برخیزدش

ز ناگه سلیمی ز تدبیر پاک
نهد پا در آن تنگنای هلاک

ز جان پدر گیرد آن بار را
شود طوق کش غل ادبار را

یکی شادکانش ز گردن فتاد
یکی خوش که آن را به گردن نهاد

خرد نام آن کس نه بخرد نهد
که این بار بیهوده بر خود نهد

دو زن چون به هم همنشینی کنند
به کار جهان خرده بینی کنند

بشو دست امید از خیرشان
که در وادی شر بود سیرشان

زن از زن چو در مشورت یافت کام
گرفت افعیی ز افعیی زهر وام

ز زهر مکرر حذر کن حذر
وگر نه ز جان و جهان در گذر

مکن زن وگر زن کنی زینهار
زنی کن بری از همه عیب و عار

چو در گرانمایه روشن گهر
صدف وار بر تیرگان بسته در

جمال وی از چشم بیگانه دور
ز نزدیکی آشنایان نفور

ز حنای کس بر کفش رنگ نی
چو طفلان به هر رنگش آهنگ نی

به جز سبحه نپسوده انگشت او
نخاریده جز ناخنش پشت او

ز گلگونه عصمتش سرخ روی
رخش از خوی شرم گلگونه شوی

ز گردندگانش به خلوتسرای
نکرده به جز چرخ گردنده جای

ز تاب کفش رشته خیط الشعاع
ز آواز چرخش فلک در سماع

نکرده به پیوند کس سرنگون
نرفته چو سوزن درون و برون

چنین زن نیابی به جز در خیال
وگر زانکه یابی به فرض محال

غنیمت شمر دامن پاک او
که از خون صد مرد به خاک او

ولی آنچنان هم زبونش مشو
که داری به فرمان او دل گرو

همی زن بدو رای و می کن خلاف
که اینست رای درونهای صاف

برای زنان کار بهبود نیست
ورای زیان هیچ ازان سود نیست

English translation

Come, O you who like Jesus have adopted celibacy; may this celibacy not turn into rebellion for you. Since Jesus did not turn his rein away from celibacy, through celibacy he hastened toward heaven. Attachment to a woman is the binding of hand and foot; celibacy is being freed from that bond. One who has fetters upon hand and foot, how can he move easily from his place? If a man is not driven mad by lust, he is not a stranger to the custom and path of reason. Why then does he place bonds upon his hand and foot, and give his heart and faith to the wind of desire? How well a wise sage spoke when he said: 'I marvel at one who seeks a wife.' The father of the bride, in whose eyes the daughter is fair, his heart and eye are both bright with her; yet the daughter weighs upon his heart as heavily as a hundred kinds of sorrow weigh upon others. He borrows silver and gold for the dowry, so that the suitor's desire for her grows keen. Two hundred schemes hang in his mind, that the burden might at last lift from his heart. Suddenly a naive man, empty of prudence, sets his foot into that strait of destruction. He takes that burden from the father's soul, and becomes the collar-bearer of the shackle of misfortune. The one is glad that it fell from his neck; the other is pleased that he set it upon his own. Wisdom would not call that man wise who lays this useless burden upon himself. When two women sit together, they pick apart the affairs of the world. Wash your hands of any hope for their good, for their journey lies in the valley of evil. When a woman gains her wish in counsel from a woman, a viper borrows venom from a viper. Beware, beware of the doubled venom, or else pass beyond life and the world. Do not marry; and if you marry, take heed: marry a woman free of every fault and shame. Like a precious pearl of luminous essence, who, like a shell, has closed her door to the base; her beauty kept far from the stranger's eye, averse to the nearness of acquaintances; no one's henna has left color on her palm, not, like children, inclined toward every hue. Her finger has touched nothing but the rosary; nothing but her own nail has scratched her back. Her face made red by the rouge of chastity, her cheek turned to rouge by the sweat of modesty. Of the turning ones, in her private chamber, none but the turning wheel has taken its place. From the twisting of her palm the thread is a ray of light; from the sound of her spinning-wheel the heavens fall into ecstasy. She has not been overturned by anyone's joining, nor gone in and out like a needle. Such a woman you will not find save in imagination, and should you find her, by an impossible supposition, count her pure skirt a treasure, for upon her dust is worth the blood of a hundred men. Yet do not become so subdued to her that you pledge your heart in bondage to her command. Keep giving her counsel and keep opposing her will, for this is the counsel of untroubled hearts. Women's opinion brings no betterment to any affair; beyond harm there is no profit to be had from it.

Updated 2026-07-20

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